Hello friends! In this new year, I’m trying a new writing experiment by creating my own TinyLetter. The occasional, sporadic letter will include updates on life, thoughts, and things… unpolished / incomplete ideas, meant to be shared with those I cross paths with in the work/world. You can sign up here.
AFTER I GRADUATED from Harvard Divinity School in May 2019, I moved into a monastery. As someone who entered divinity school as a non-religious seeker, a monastery might seem like the last place I’d inhabit. But it was the first place I wanted to go.
I wrote for our Nuns & Nones #surpriseweresoulmates series on some reflections from my summer experience here with the Benedictine Sisters of Erie. I’ve been so inspired and energized by each of our conversations here – and am excited to deepen & widen our dreamings in Erie and beyond.
Read more here.
Last week, I got to talk with the hosts of the Jesuitical podcast about Nuns & Nones – its origin and how it has transformed me/us every day since. Listen to the interview here.
Every Friday, for my work with a spiritual formation project, I uplift one gem from our “Wisdom Well” to highlight for participants. Here’s this week’s…
Grace Lee Boggs. Chinese-American woman, public philosopher, feminist and activist. She died in 2015 at the age of 100 – and lived her life committed to social change. She was based in Detroit, and her legacy lives on through the ‘James and Grace Lee Boggs Center to Nurture Community Leadership,’ which was started with her husband James Boggs. One of my favorite quotes from her is: “Building community is to the collective as spiritual practice is to the individual.” A few links to learn more:
- A piece she wrote on her philosophical (and spiritual / religious) journey – a favorite of mine, ever since I found it several years ago!
- A recent re-publication of a book of conversations with Grace and three close friends/collaborators – “Conversations in Maine” : Following the Detroit Rebellion of 1967, four veteran activists, Grace Lee and Jimmy Boggs, and Lyman and Freddy Paine, came together to rethink revolution and social change. Posting tough, thought-provoking questions, the recorded dialogue among these four friends ultimately serves as a call to all citizens to work together and think deeply about the kind of future we can create.
- Her On Being interview – on living a ‘Century in the World’
Her understanding of revolution + evolution, as well as contemplation + action, live on today. How do these ideas live in you?
Today’s the last day of the Conference on the History of Women Religious, hosted by the Cushwa Center at Notre Dame. Archivists, historians, Sisters, and others all gather to share research, methodology, and most importantly – stories – for 4 days. This year’s theme is “Commemoration, Preservation, Celebration,” uplifting the histories of women religious in order to orient us – all of us – toward more just and peaceful futures.
In a keynote address by Eileen Markey, author of A Radical Faith: The Assassination of Sr. Maura, she commented that by studying the histories of women religious, we are also studying the histories of social movements. Sr. Maura Clark, a Maryknoll Sister murdered in 1980 in El Salvador, is a perfect example of that. Further, from Sisters involvement and leadership in sanctuary and solidarity efforts of the 1980s, we can learn about how to show up at today’s border, where immigrants and children are in inhumane conditions and dying in their journey toward peace and freedom. We need to study these social movements, she said, in order to do it again. We need to re-vitalize these revolutionary spirits that Sisters have been throughout history, in our own context and culture. We need their stories, in order to save our lives today.
Eileen said that we’re living in a “kairos moment,” a moment of possibility, for the preservation and celebration of these stories. Now is the time to learn these stories. And if it’s not yet time to share these stories, then preserve them now so that one day we can come back and ask the right questions in order to learn from them. No matter what, Sisters and their collaborators need to know that their stories are worth celebrating – and learning from – for all of us.
Earlier in the day at the conference, I presented on “Learning & Stewarding Sisters’ Stories for the Next Generation.” In my talk, I shared about Nuns & Nones, and how our vehicle for story transmission between Sisters and millennials is through relationship, trust, and community. It is in spaces of gatherings that we come to learn one another’s stories of their own individual self, their community, and their tradition. And then I talked about my Foundress podcast project, where I am recording interviews with women religious about the stories of their female founders, and how they still shape spiritual and community life. In that project, the vehicle for story transmission is audio/oral, and because of that, I hope it will be able to reach a new audience – an audience unfamiliar with Sisters and their histories, but will still surely be inspired by their lives committed to contemplation, community, and justice.
After I talked about the Foundress project, someone asked me who my intended audience will be. And I immediately thought of all of the community builders and spiritual innovators that I know. Mostly young-ish people, between 25 and 45, who are building communities outside of traditional religious structures, but still communities that are committed to connection, action, and “something more.” Because especially people like us – who are often creating our own stories – could learn from the stories of the people that have built up these communities of the past.
As I’ve been here, sitting in the company of Sisters and historians who hold these stories and histories within them – within their minds, within their spirits – I’ve seen what can help shape young people today in our own processes of becoming and creating. Whether it comes through learning the stories of the Sisters in your city, or reading books like Eileen Markey’s, A Radical Faith, or comes from live-in experiences like our pilot residency in Burlingame or my own summer experience with the Erie Benedictines, what I know is that we need these relationships in order to help shape our own collective futures.
And what comes through those relationships is new stories that we can then create and write together – to inform and inspire us for the challenges and the mystery ahead.
If there’s one action step or take-away I can encourage to people energized by this call, it is for you – or your community – to record and document your stories, of the past and the present. Sit down with a Sister or a few Sisters and interview them. Record them. Capture some wisdom so it can live on in ever unfolding, new ways. And in doing so, keep in mind that Sisters and collaborators alike are participants in a journey of co-creation of our collective future. It is by sharing stories with one another that we can start to imagine a rough draft of the future to come.
Whew, friends. It’s been a busy few months! Here’s a bit of what I’ve been up to.
proudly holding my fancy diploma
Well – first and foremost! I finished my last semester at Harvard Divinity School, and graduated on May 30, among close friends, mentors, and family. Our multireligious commencement service was the embodiment of HDS’ beauty – students shared from their spiritual traditions and Cornel West preached fire from the pulpit. My last semester was the best yet, soaking up the community, taking great classes (“Spiritual Formation in Community”; “Contemplative Prayer in Christianity”; and “Religious Literacy, Journalism, and Media”), and even getting *a little* involved on campus. Some highlights include presenting one of my papers at the Krister Stendahl Symposium, hosting two Nuns & Nones events on campus, and growing closer with incredible mentors and life-long friends. To spend two years of my life focused on intellectual curiosity and spiritual growth is a gift I can never give enough thanks for – and to do so alongside students and faculty that I’m proud to know is the blessing of a lifetime. Because of this place, I’ve actually been able to live into my dreams, I’ve fallen in love with another community, and stretched myself beyond imaginable.
“Power Up” a piece by Sr. Corita Kent, dedicated to Fr. Dan Berrigan, who used to stay at Kirkridge while he hid from the FBI
Between finals and graduation, in my three weeks off during May, I went on four different retreats. The first was at Kirkridge Retreat & Study Center in Bangor, PA, where about 30 of us convened to discern and dream about the future of retreat centers – how we can both be lights to the world…and keep the lights on. Then, that weekend I went up to Scarborough, Maine, with the Boston Community Leaders Cohort – a group of colleagues and friends – for rest and play. The following weekend, I went to Mercy-by-the-Sea for a retreat led by Robin Wall Kimmerer, author of Braiding Sweetgrass. There with my Nuns & Nones friends, we sang as we planted seeds, we talked with our kin (trees, plants, animals) outside, we watched the flower moon rise as the group recited poetry from heart, and we listened to what the earth is asking of us – to leap, to jump, to dive into a new way of being and living together. From Madison, CT, we ended this retreat-marathon with the Nuns & Nones crew up on Mount Desert Island in Maine, outside of Acadia National Park, where we mostly worked but also just got to soak up time with one another. May was a beautiful and challenging month – full of transformative conversations, quick transitions, and just a bit of stillness amidst the great movement.
My welcome card and welcome flowers to the monastery
And then! After a flurry of family time, graduation, and packing up my life — on June 2nd, I moved to Erie, PA, where I am living with the Erie Benedictine Sisters and am the 2019 Joan Chittister Intern for the summer (and watching a heck of a lot of beautiful sunsets over Lake Erie!). In this role, in addition to continuing my work I’m already doing like Nuns & Nones, I’ll be exploring creative, modern ways to bring monastic wisdom to spiritual seekers of all generations. One project I’ll especially focus on is the Foundress project, where I’ll be sharing stories of women religious foundresses as modern feminist archetypes we can learn from in our own times. Additionally, I’ll be co-teaching an e-course with Sr. Linda Romey, osb on “Seeking God in Community.” In it, we’ll explore questions like: What do our wisdom traditions teach us about community? In our increasingly digital age, can we find meaningful community online? And what is community for – what larger purpose does it serve in our lives and in our society?
(If you want to sign up – click the link of the text of the e-course!)
Finally … I think I have the heart-space to finally make this update-post because this past week, I had a real retreat – one I wasn’t facilitating, and I wasn’t working at – for the first time since starting divinity school. As a member of the community at the Mount for the summer, I got to join the Erie Benedictines for their annual Community Retreat.
one of the spiritual traits we explored was beauty – so I picked up watercoloring
It’s a time when Sisters, oblates, and friends come together for silence, prayer, rest, teachings, and spiritual formation. This year was a special treat because it was led by Erie community member Sr. Joan Chittister. Each of my days generally followed this structure: breakfast in silence; sitting meditation at 8:15; community prayer at 9am; lecture from Joan at 10am; lunch in silence; reading and a nap in the afternoon; lecture from Joan at 4:30pm; community prayer at 5:30pm; and dinner – no longer in silence. After dinner, we went back into silence, although most nights we found excuses to keep chatting, like taking walks down to the lake to watch the sunset. It was a restful rhythm, and full of stimulating and challenging talks by Joan. In each session, she told a story of a sister from Erie’s past, and she explored what quality that Sister represented, discussing its spiritual, psychological, and sociological aspects and implications. We were then given work books to reflect on how that quality shows up in our own life. So – 5 days / 10 Sisters / 10 qualities later – my spiritual formation in the monastic tradition is just a tad deeper. Between Joan’s teachings, and reading her 1990 book Woman Strength at the same time, I feel like I’ve just received a crash course in monastic spiritual tradition and Erie history. All you holy women, come and be with us… All you holy women, thank you for letting me be with you this summer.
On Rachel and I’s drive to Erie from Boston – we went to a rest stop off the Mass Pike and picked up a Sunday edition of the NYTimes to see our friend Sarah’s face right there on the cover of the Style section.
In the meantime, Nuns & Nones is keeping us busy as ever. We were featured in the NYTimes, the third installment of the Global Sisters Report pieces came out, and Duke Divinity did a Faith & Leadership story on us. And we also launched the loveliest social media campaign: #SurpriseWereSoulmates. We’re writing blogs on there for the first time – which can be followed here. More and more and more is happening every day, it feels like, so truly – I’m just trying to keep up with it all right now.
Ah – deep breath – here I am. Amidst life’s excitement, I am grounding myself in this magical, monastic community for a couple months. Seeing what happens – following the spirit. I’m hoping to soak it all in – joining for community prayer and meals, hanging out for game nights and bonfires, volunteering at their events and saying ‘yes’ to any invite I get from a Sister. I’m not planning on blogging personally too much – would rather let it all live within me first. But I do hope to be able to share with friends through letters and certainly over coffee-dates in the months to come.
Sunset over Lake Erie – a (nearly) nightly ritual for me here
Thanks y’all for being interested. What a life, what a dream.